I normally set my goals for September. I find with the boys it’s the easiest time for me to get into a new routine. The kids are going back to school and are no longer on a summer schedule. This year however, I am having a huge change in my life that will force me into a new schedule. I am starting college in the trades, I will be taking classes in the Industrial Millwright course at Cambrian college.
September 2018 was the year that I started really focusing on myself as an individual. As mothers we often put the needs of our children and spouses ahead of our own. I had a hard time putting myself first but it was needed. I had brought a lot of toxicity in my life from my past and it was time for me to heal. It was time for me to remember what my identity was. Who was I as a person? Who was I outside of my relationship? Who was I when I wasn’t being the mom?
2018 started my journey to healing myself emotionally and physically. It was a journey that strengthened myself as a person which also helped me become a better partner and mother. My partner and I bought a house in December of that year and we’ve been living in it happily ever since. I started counselling and changed jobs. I did all these things to be a better person. Counselling helped me get in touch behind the reason of all my hurt and anger and has helped me greatly become a calmer version of myself.
2019 brought even more changes. I won full custody of two of my children. I know this sounds weird but that was part of my healing as well. My kids had a hard time adapting, the relationship between my ex and I wasn’t improving ( God only knows I wish I could have that, look were separated but we still hangout together kinda of break up). Without going into detail lets just say it wasn’t a good place for anyone to be. Since the boys have been here their schooling and behaviours have improved and they still get time to spend with their dad. I made the difficult decision to go back to school, I started going to the gym regularly and taking care of my eating ( I still fall off the wagon but I get back on it much faster then I used too. I am still continuing to take care of myself in various other ways such as : infra-red saunas, avoiding gluten, learning when to step back from the gym when I am feeling unwell, drinking a tons more water a day etc…
My Goals for 2020
Maintain a minimum 75% average in my grades. To do this I will have to study at least 1 hour a day minimum on my work. I will ask as many questions as I can. I will listen and learn. I will take good and proper notes with all my tools ( binders and pens, post it notes, laptop). I will review these notes when possible.
I will be employed and continue to maintain paying my bills on time. I will review my budget monthly and give as many hours to my employer as I can. I will work responsibly and do my best. I will take note of the exact date my bills are due so I can manage my money safely and without worry. Most of my payments are done automatically right now based on when I get paid now, so I will have to check the dates. I will also try saving some money for my next semester of school.
I will continue to have a healthy lifestyle. I will go to the gym at the school either before, in between or after classes depending on when my course start for at least an hour. I will learn how to meal prep better then I do now. I will research and put up a better meal plan once I am fully educated on how to do this. I will try and do research 30 minutes a night so I know what will work once I get to my residence for the 1.5 years. I am hoping these will build me a good foundation for when I come back home to the boys. I am hoping to know how to do this by December 30 2019 so I can implement it by January 2020.
I want to read more. I want to read at least one book a month. I will do this by reading in my spare time once I’ve done the important things 9 studying and exercising). I want to read at least 30 pages a day if possible ( I tend to fall asleep reading).
I am sure I will have more goals throughout the years and that the goals I have now will develop in bigger better dreams and goals later on. I know they are currently vague on some points but I will be refining them probably in my journal until I have a full game plan. It is hard for me to be super specific when I have no clue what this new journey will be throwing at me.
Here is to another great year ahead.
keep finding your spoons.